FOCUS IS THE SECRET OF LIFE

The successful man is the average man, focussed.

From the moment you were born, your mind began sucking up information, storing it away, and using it to create an internal map of who you are and what your relationship is to the rest of the world. This internal map of reality is what creates the internal experiences you have and the external results you get in your life.

How this map is constructed is the main determining factor of your success or your failures, and your happiness or unhappiness. Unfortunately, this map - and its moment by moment workings - happen, for almost everyone, unconsciously, outside their awareness. This means that your map often creates results that you do not want, without your being able to see how they are generated. Because they are generated unconsciously, these results seem as if they "just happen," rather than they actually come from you. To create the results you want, inside and out, and to do so consciously and intentionally, you must remake that map in such a way that it performs the way you want it to.

The real secret behind all of these things, the engine that pulls the train, the one factor, that when you "get it" causes your beliefs, your values, your sorting methods, your ways of making distinctions, your internal filters, your ways of making internal representations of reality to yourself, and all your internal states and external results, to fall into place is what you focus your mind on.

You see your mind is so powerful that whatever you focus it on happens. Your mind has such creative power that whatever you focus it on comes to be. The problem is 99.99% of people are doing their focussing unconsciously. They are not choosing, with awareness, what to focus on. They are allowing their brain to focus on whatever it has been programmed to focus on, getting the results of that focussing, and then wondering what in the devil happened.

Here's an example of how the process can go amiss. When people are abused, wounded or traumatised in some way, they say to themselves: "The word is dangerous, and I have to watch out for dangers so I can avoid them." They focus on potential dangers, think about them and watch out for them.

What does your brain do when you do this? It takes the fact that you are focussing on something as an instruction to create it, or draw it to you and it flawlessly does so.

Plus, if there a lot of emotion attached (which often there is), your brain thinks: "Not only do I need to create this, it's urgent."

So if you are getting what you do not want in life, internally or externally, the root cause is that you are focussing your mind on avoiding what you don't want, and your brain is creating for you what you are focussing on.

This means that when you worry about something, your mind thinks you want it!

Of course, when you get what you don't want, you tend to think you must not have focussed hard enough on avoiding it, so you redouble your efforts, which causes your brain to redouble its efforts, and then you get more of what you don't want, so you focus even harder, and on and on.

If you focus your mind on what you want - if you talk to yourself about what you want, make pictures inside of what you want, think about what you want, and so on and so on, your beliefs will reorganise themselves in such a way that you get what you want, your values will change to support what you want, and your brain will create the internal strategies you need, the filters you need, the sorting process you need and everything else you need.

Yes it helps to work with each of these areas, correcting the problems that might be causing you to create the outcomes you don't want.

But the master switch is your focus. If you decide what you want, and relentlessly focus your mind on it, all the rest of your internal map of reality will reshape itself to allow your brain to create whatever you are focussing on.

It does not matter if you are focussing on wealth, health, friends, happiness, inner peace - or all the things you are afraid of or, don't want, or are worried about. If you focus on it, your brain, like iron fillings being dragged along by a magnet, will reform itself in whatever way necessary to get you whatever you focus on.

You are already good at this. Whatever is happening for you, right now, is the result of whatever you have focussed your mind on. The problem is not your mind's ability to create reality, which is pretty much infinite. The problem is that up to now, you have been doing your focussing unconsciously, sometimes getting what you want, and sometimes getting what you don't want.

There are three ways to correct this. You can look at, and take apart, each aspect of your reality: your beliefs, values, decisions, attitudes, filtering mechanisms, ways of storing and retrieving information, and so on. You can practice, practice, practice, until you train yourself to notice those times when you are focussing on what you don't want, and then every time you notice this negative focus, you change to focussing on what you do want. Simply put: decide and keep what works, and redo what doesn't.

The second way is to meditate. When you meditate, your conscious awareness of all these internal processes becomes greater and greater, and what was unconscious becomes conscious. As that happens, you begin to see the effect of focussing indiscriminately and unconsciously... and you stop doing it.

The third way is hypnosis. Through hypnosis you become aware of how all these different aspects of your internal map of reality generate your experience and results of life. The parts that do not serve can be easily reprogrammed (by you or the hypnotherapist) to align with your conscious goals and desires. Old habits and behaviours fade away. Why? Because you can continue to do something that does not serve you only if you do it unconsciously.

So there you have it. The whole secret to life is what you focus on. If you want to be in charge of what you create, learn to focus your mind intentionally and consciously on what you want. If that's the only thing you do, you will be fine. Because what you focus on controls everything else.

Now that you know, go do it.

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